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Sunday, October 31, 2010

Why Men HATE Going to Church?

48 million women attend church every week while only 35 million men do. That’s a gender imbalance of 13 million people, and a reason why churches need to become man-friendly–according to David Murrow, author of Why Men Hate Going To Church.

“[Murrow] concluded that today’s church culture favors, even expects, participation in intimate, nurturing behavior such as singing, hand-holding, sitting in circles and sharing feelings. Many men feel uncomfortable in such an environment and choose not to go.” (Washington Post)

Just want to post this thought. Church today needs more MEN to stand up and be the leader and head God designed them to be.  Honestly, it saddens me to see men outnumbered by women when it comes to spirituality and leadership. It is true that God designed men to be initiators and not mere followers. On the other hand, women are emotional people and can be easily touched by church worship experience. Men by the way, wants to be challenged, but at some point they don't want their pride to be down. Men can be confident at the same time being humble with God's grace, I am praying and hoping that more men must learn how to be a MAN. 

Sometimes the atmosphere in church were designed and obviously made by women. With all those flowers and bright colors surrounding the hall, it's too feminine for me. I am not against decorating. I would like to point out that if we want men to be more active, the men inside the church must take the initiative to start something that is engaging and challenging. Also, there's a need for men preachers today. Again, I am not against the 'pastoras'. I am saying that there is really a big difference when a word came from the mouth of a man. It is powerful and gives you assurance that whats being said is serious and doable. MANHOOD is the key here people.

Men needs to be reminded of their original design and purpose.
Church needs to train and equip men.

Real men are those who have faith, integrity and excellence.

Just sayin'

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JIL 32nd Anniversary

Last Friday, our church celebrated 32 years of God's faithfulness at Luneta Grandstand. Yes! It's the place where the hostage taking took place. Something happened that almost hindered me from going pero tuloy pa rin. I don't want to miss this! And here are some highlights of the event.

- arrived at JIL Sta. Rosa around 2PM
- surprised that we got free transportation, and it's a BUS!!!
- the aircon broke when we were in Sucat. Epic Fail! haha
- cracked some jokes during the travel time
- arrived at Luneta around 5PM
- good weather :)
- too bad, we're almost in the last row. pero ok lang at least we have seats. :)
- got to see Shanice and Reuel Espiritu
- dinner with Ziel Villegas and Neil Chua sa carinderia sa tabi ng Luneta
- saw politicians and religious leaders.
- amazed on the testimonies.
- loved the shirts of the TRIUNE dancers. I WANT ONE!!!!
- astig ng 32 acoustic guitars
- got the blue bracelet pass from our pinsan...hahaha
- saw friends I haven't seen for a while
- new dance steps and songs
- loved the feeling to sing worship songs outdoors
- Bro. Eddie is the real deal. He's a living example to the youth!
- left Luneta around 11PM
- got home by 1AM

Amazing Friday Night!
Soar high Jesus Is Lord Church.

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Wednesday, October 27, 2010


I spent the day with a group of men in our house church learning what it takes to be a man of God when it comes to loving and respecting women. In our day an age most men are not men, they are boys. Most guys still want to marry their mom, have a women serve and take care of them, are not willing to take initiative or commit in a relationship, most men are still living in fear, not pursuing their callings by settling for “safe” because its easy. This is sad, upsetting and the standard must change.
Women don’t want to marry boys, they want to marry men. Women don’t want boys they have to put up with, clean up after and take care of, they want to be lead, pursued and taken on an exciting life adventure. If you go to most of the churches in the Western world today, you will find that there are very few spiritual men, instead there are many spiritual women. It’s disappointing, but I hear it from women of faith all the time, “Pastor Jaeson, where are the godly men?”
Today, a good brother and leader in our GBS community Daniel Ra explained what God showed him to be the “5 Pillars of Manhood” in how men must love, respect and serve women. It was enlightening and reinforcing from what I have been teaching men for years when it comes to pursuing a woman of God… of course none of us are perfect, we all have our mistakes, but we must each strive to be better and greater than what we were before yesterday, everyday making an effort to be more like God, to be just like Jesus, to be a man of faith and honor.
The 5 Pillars of Manhood…
1. Lead - A man must be a leader in a relationship, in a marriage, in a family. There are no excuses. A woman doesn’t want to make the decisions for her man, she wants her man to lead in the relationship. A man must take initiative. A man of God is leader, not a follower, a servant, not a slave, a hero not a coward. A man of God knows God and therefore knows himself. He should be the leader spiritually first, emotionally, mentally and physically he should set the standard for others to follow.
2. Protect - A real man of God will protect his partner. That means he is willing to lay down his very own life, needs and wants for the protection of the one he loves. Every decision he makes when it comes to a relationship has her protection in mind. A woman needs to feel secure, that she is protected and safe with her man. She doesn’t need to second guess, wonder if she will be okay, or have her heart and mind played with. A real man of God will not only protect his woman physically, but also mentally, emotionally and spiritually. He always has the highest good in his mind for her safety, well being and wholeness. This is for the Christian guys out there, don’t emotionally rape a sister, play with her heart and tell her you are just her brother or friend. That is BS. Man up. You either pursue a woman of God because she is God’s precious creation, or you don’t try touching it at all, or play with their hearts emotionally, unless you are willing to be up front and clear with your intentions and the direction of the relationship from the start. Emotional rape is as painful to a woman as physical rape. Women are emotional beings and their hearts are not to be played with. Protect your sisters heart.
3. Provide – A real man of God will do whatever it takes to provide for his significant other. That means monetarily in finances, in basic needs and as well as what she desires. When a man asks a father for his daughter in marriage, the father will not ask, “How are you doing spiritually first?” No, the first thing the father will ask is, “How will you provide for my daughter?” Because part of being and becoming a man is providing for others, especially your wife and children. If a man can’t provide, he isn’t a man. God gave us hands and we must put our hands to work, no excuses to be lazy, God made us to rule the earth. Women are not be treated as toys, trophies or a luxury item, women are God’s highest creation, the very image of God.
I tell men all the time, “Treat your woman like a queen and you will live like a king.” Don’t be cheap brothers, you need to go all out when it comes to pursuing a woman. This is not a one time thing, but a continual practice. Women were created for beauty. They were created beautiful, to feel beautiful to be treated beautiful. You don’t handle a rose without care, it is the same with a woman of God, you treat her with the utmost care, honor and respect. Practically, that means you don’t take a woman to Denny’s on a first date, you take her to a place that hurts your wallet, but it’s worth it because she is worthy.
Also, men must also provide for women emotionally. When a women asks you, “How are you doing?” She is really asking, “How are you being?” Meaning, what are you feeling, thinking, seeing, being about at the moment. To love a women we must provide at every level – basic needs all the way to providing for them mentally, emotionally and spiritually, if not their hearts will die. Be a man, provide for your women.
4. Integrity – A true man of God is a man of his word. Too many men in our culture break promises, play with women’s hearts, date girls as if it was a game, and have no respect for women at all. This is disgusting. In old times, when a man said “You have my word!” that word was bond, it was as if an actual contract had been written, because your word was your reputation. How many men do we know today who say one thing, but do another? Men who do not keep their word, their promise or follow through with their verbal commitments. In our culture we don’t take words seriously, but in God’s world words are everything. Blessings and curses come out of the same mouth. What comes out of our mouths determines what is truly in our hearts.
What a woman wants is a man of integrity. Someone who says what he does and does what he says. Someone they can trust at their word. So as a man you must come through. Words means nothing if they are not backed up with action. Don’t say sorry unless you mean it. Don’t say sorry unless you are able to back up your apologies with doing the right thing. Integrity is doing what is right, whether people are watching or not. Integrity is what you do when no one is looking. Does your woman trust you completely? If not, it is a question of integrity. Don’t tell a women you love her unless your love shows, words carry weight. They either carry false weight or real weight, a woman knows when a man means what he says.
So live by your words, live by action, be a living proof of your values, convictions and commitments. Don’t get involved in a relationship unless you are sure this what you want and what God is leading you both to do. I’ve had my share of mistakes in the past, where I got into a relationship without thinking about the consequences, protecting my sisters heart and the fear of the Lord from the get go, I’ve had to make amends and face the results of my sin and foolishness. Trust me brothers, don’t do what I’ve done in the past, don’t play games, don’t feed your fleshly desires, rather seek God, seek the best interest of the one you are pursuing, be honest, forthright from the start about your commitment and your vision for the relationship and stick to your word. Be a man of integrity.
If you pursue a women, it should be with the intentions of marriage. If not, stop playing yourself and her. It’s not about finding the right woman, it’s about being the right man. That starts with first knowing God in order to know yourself, then you will know how to love and respect a woman.
5) Courage - You are not a man until you climb the great wall of China! This is what it says at the actual great wall. Well, I have climbed the Great Wall of China so I guess I must be more of a man than others, just kidding. What is the greater underlying message here? It is a message of courage. It is a message of adventure. A man of God is a man of courage, a man of adventure, a man who is willing to take risks and do the impossible. Men were born to live a life of great adventure. Men were created to fight battles. Men were created to rescue beauties. Men were created to live.
Sadly, most men are not living. Most men are cowards, fearful and afraid of failure. Imprisoned by their own thinking and what others think about them. Many men are just boys waiting for their mother’s approval, or the approval of others in society. Most men I know are people pleasers, not God pleasers. They are more afraid of how others may reject them or not accept them if they choose to take the road less traveled.
All men die, few men truly live.
Women don’t want nice guys or good boys, women want men on a mission, men on adventure, men who are dangerous. This is why many women are drawn to bad boys because bad boys live with a sense of risk, danger, mystery and unknown. Men were created to live fearless and to live by faith. But if you walk into a church today what you find are a bunch of boys playing with their toys, working at predictable jobs — not their true callings, and living boring lives. It’s sad, but most guys get their sense of adventure from playing video games or watching TV, what happened to our men?
A man of faith will sweep a woman of God off of her feet. He will challenge her to go the distance in God, in their relationship and in life. A man of courage is someone who in the face of fear still chooses to move forward with trust in God, setting out to obey God’s voice at whatever the cost, because that is what matters the most. We need men who have hearts fully alive, hearts full of passion and are on a mission to change the world. There is a high cost to being a man of courage, there is a price to pay if we want to be a real hero, it means we are willing to go against the grain, follow God against all odds and live a life of honor, courage and righteousness.
When a woman finds a man of courage, it will encourage her to be all that God has created her to be. As a man, your goal is not how your woman can serve you, but how can you serve your woman? As a man, your goal is not how a woman can serve your destiny, but how can you do all that you possibly can to release the fullness of God’s glory and destiny in her.
Men take the lead, protect at all costs, provide in every way, live by your word and live a life of adventure with the Holy Spirit — obey God, not man and you will be the man of God you were created to be — and your woman will love you for it.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.

Crazy Love!!!!


Natutuwa ako dahil ngayon mas na-aapreciate ko na ang OPM. Bilib ako sa galing ng Pinoy magsulat, mag-areglo at gumawa ng mga kanta.  Inaamin ko nakikinig ako ng mga musika ng mga banyaga at ang nakakaindak na KPOP. Bakit pa makikinig sa iba kung mismo tayong mga Pilipino magaling gumawa ng kanta. Nakakalungkot minsan dahil mas tanggap pa ng mga foreigner ang musika natin. Iba na din kasi takbo ng panahon ngayon. Buti na lang at di nawawalan ng pag-asa ang mga tao sa totoong musika. Musika na galing sa puso, may matututunan at nakakatulong sa iba.

Ilan sa mga paborito kong banda/mang-aawit ngayon:
Novus Luna
Tiny Cactus
Yeng Constantino
6 Cycle Mind
Kitchie Nadal
Noel Cabangon
Gloc 9

at madami pang iba.

Suportahan po natin ang OPM! Sino pang tutulong sa kanila, eh di tayo tayo rin!

Hillsong NYC

I love Hillsong Church. It's like a family to me. Their music played an important role in my walk as a Christian. I collected their LIVE albums since 2006 and all the songs are just great, perfect to guide and remind us in every step of the way. And now, Hillsong planted a church in the big apple New York City! I've been following all the blogs from Carl Lentz, Joel Houston and Brian Houston. I'm very thankful to all of them for they serves as an inspiration to all the leaders and church planters that it's all about reaching the lost and live the life of victory.

Thanks to Twitter and Hillsong Collected for keeping me updated. It means a lot to me that Hillsong NYC will make a significant impact to the citizens across America. It's just the beginning. They have developed a strong bond among the volunteers and to the Body of Christ. My point is, I'm learning a lot. And the CHURCH is the only one needed to love the unloved, reach the unreached, heal the sick and save the lost. It is HIS body. Salt and Light. Hands and feet of JESUS CHRIST.

So keep it up guys!
Soon, there will Hillsong Manila! Hahaha.

Sunday, October 10, 2010

Listen and Learn

I do the talking most of the time, whether in reporting, get togethers and other activities that verbal words are needed. Believe it or not, I'm a different type of person during my high school days, I was shy and should I say lack of confidence in myself. I am saying this right now to set the record straight that along the way, people will change and that's including you and me. Just make sure you're changing for the better. 

This time, I felt and I was convicted by God to take time to listen and zip my mouth to give way for others to talk. I learned that as you take time to listen you will get to know the person really well and understanding their point of views  that will help us to be open minded. As I took time to listen, I learned a lot. These past days have been a learning experience as I interviewed one of my friend and a volunteer pastor in our church. I learned a lot about passion and being a servant as we humble ourselves before the Lord. But that does not end there. There's a viral video today that's circulating around Facebook about a talk given by Professor Winnie Monsod. After watching it, I've never been this involved and engaged in my academics. I'm not a UP student nor a Dean's Lister in our school but  this taught me a lot on loving our country and being proud of it. I learned how to give back by being a person of HONOR and EXCELLENCE in everything that we do. With that in mind, INTEGRITY will follow and that kind of person I want to be. I want to apply it in my relationship with God, family, friends, church and I believe that's the kind of person God wants is to be. 

Watch and be inspired by this video:

"Im only one, but I am one. I can't do everything, but I can do something. What I can do, I ought to do. With the grace of God, I will do it."-Prof. Monsod

When you take time to listen, you also take time to learn.